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Communication
  • Communicate What You Feel: How to be Understood By Those You Love
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Often our language is imprecise and does not express clearly what is most important to us. This article introduces the Awareness Continuum, a tool for building skills in clear communication. Learn how better to tell those you love what is most important to you.

  • The Grammar of Good Communication
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Following a few simple rules will make your communication clearer, more to the point, and more impactful on your listeners. For example, speaking in first person -- "I ..." captures attention, and clearly denotes that you are speaking about your thoughts and feelings. Using the word "but" in a sentence negates all that has gone before: "I like you, but..." This article offers guidelines for clear communication for business, friendship or intimate relationships.

  • Talking Pain Away
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Putting your problems into words can soften the emotional impact of those problems. This notion, which is a psychological observation that may explain some of the usefulness of talking with friends, prayer, journaling, psychotherapy, and talking to "worry dolls", has been around a long time.

Creativity
  • Life as a Voyage of Discovery
    Part I: The Big Dream

    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    With curiosity, courage and a venturesome spirit, life becomes a Voyage of Discovery as we chart a course through unknown territory. The challenge of moving into the unknown on a sea- journey may mean dealing with life-threatening storms as well as periods of calm with no apparent forward movement. There may be times of proceeding with great caution to avoid shoals and reefs and other navigational hazards. Occasionally there is the challenge of extricating oneself after making a navigational error and running aground.

  • Life as a Voyage of Discovery
    Part II: The Success Log

    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Here we focus on an aspect of navigation at sea which provides another useful metaphor for our life’s journey. The Success Log - one’s own personal "ship’s log" - is a vital tool which can provide strength and encouragement to keep the Dream alive.

  • The Power of Imagination
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    It is the power of the imagination to enable each person to transcend present reality, no matter how stark, deprived or "hopeless." Imagination generates hope - or more exactly, unleashes creative powers to transform reality into something beyond that which is currently visible.
Dogs
 
Health and Wellness
  • Breath and Relaxation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Exceptional and easy access to the Relaxation Response is available through focusing on the breath -- the foundation of most meditative practices. Simply paying attention to the flow of air into and out of your body has a relaxing and calming effect, allowing your body to move into the Relaxation Response.

  • Breathe with Mindfulness Today!
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Become conscious of the life-sustaining presence of your breath in this moment.

  • The Faith Factor: The Health Benefits of Spirituality

    According to Dr. Benson, the number of physician visits that are due to stress or other mind/body interactions is 60 to 90 percent.
    (Interview with Dr. Herbert Benson which first appeared in The Shambhala Sun, July 1998)

  • Fight or Flight: How Stress Affects Health, Part I
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Medical researchers have traced the stress response as it cascades throughout the body, affecting every system of the body.

  • Fight or Flight: How Stress Affects Health, Part II
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

  • Getting A Good Night’s Sleep
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    40 million people in the U.S. suffer from sleep problems every year, according to the FDA. Stress is one of the major causes of sleep problems. Deep Relaxation may be very helpful with sleep problems, lowering your stress, allowing your body and mind to quieten and calm.

  • How to Create Your Own Stress Reduction Program
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    A multi-faceted approach to stress management will yield maximum success in reducing your level of overall stress. The primary components of an effective stress reduction program include regular exercise, adequate sleep, a good diet, moderate use of alcohol, and relaxation.

  • Laughter May Boost Immune System

    According to an article recently published in Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine, laughter may reduce stress and increase natural killer cell levels, a type of white blood cell that attacks cancer cells.

  • Relaxation and Stress Relief

    Deep Relaxation is the much-needed antidote to chronic stress, providing relief and recovery from stress, burnout and emotional fatigue. Relaxation allows your muscle tension to melt away and your brain to slow down from its mad pace. Deep Relaxation gives your body the healing rest it needs so you can feel more like yourself once again.
  • Relaxation CDs: How to Get Maximum Benefit

    Relaxation CDs are a useful tool in learning how to achieve the Relaxation Response as a way of countering the effects of chronic stress. Simple guidelines enable you to get the most out of your experience using a relaxation CD.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 1: Rhythmic Breathing
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The experience of relaxation is essential to counteract the harmful effects of chronic stress on the body. Through the regular practice of relaxation techniques, one can begin to reverse this cumulative, damaging process, and engage the body's incredible potential for self-healing. Rhythmic breathing and focusing on the breath can foster the Relaxation Response.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 2: Progressive Muscle Relaxation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Progressive muscle relaxation, also known as a guided body scan is a very useful stress relief technique.  A guided body scan -- which seeks to find and release muscular tensions -- promotes deep relaxation, as most of us carry unnecessary tightness in some of our muscles.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 3: Centering Meditation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Centering Meditation is a tested technique which encourages a state of profound rest and release.  In this practice we focus our attention on a word or phrase to enhance the sense of relaxation while breathing deeply, slowly and evenly. The words you choose can have deep personal meaning, be neutral or simply be pleasing sounds.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 4: The Practice of Mindfulness
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Mindfulness is the discovery of what the essayist, Henry David Thoreau, referred to as the "bloom of the present moment." This practice provides an experience of the Relaxation Response as you learn to be in the present with non-judgmental, moment-to-moment awareness. It allows you to become centered and fully engaged in your life as it unfolds.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 5: Visualization and Guided Imagery
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The experience of relaxation is essential to counteract the harmful effects of chronic stress on the body. Through the regular practice of relaxation techniques, one can begin to reverse this cumulative, damaging process, and engage the body's incredible potential for self-healing.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 6: Walking Meditation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Walking meditation is a great stress relief technique, particularly if you feel restless while doing other mindfulness techniques. A slow, mindful walk helps to center and relax you. Walking Meditation is practicing mindfulness and meditation while walking -- a kind of stillness in motion.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 7: Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The ancient disciplines of Tai Chi, Qigong and Yoga provide excellent methods for heightening bodily awareness, focusing on the breath, and living in the present moment – all are paths to the Relaxation Response. Some have called these practices "meditation in motion." These may be helpful practices if you feel restless with less active approaches to relaxation.

  • Stress Relief Through Relaxation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    As you move into Deep Relaxation during meditation, relaxation therapy, yoga –- or by simply paying attention to your breath -- your body is gradually shifting from the Stress Response to the Relaxation Response. Mental stress and muscle tension melt away as your body and mind relax.

  • Symptoms for Which Relaxation Techniques Are Helpful
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Most physicians agree that Stress can exacerbate the symptoms of diseases, and can diminish the body’s ability to heal using its own natural healing processes. Many suspect that Stress can be a causal factor in a number of illnesses, including high blood pressure, anxiety, depression, insomnia, headache and others. The practice of relaxation is a valuable adjunct to medical treatment.

Intimate Relationships
  • Communicate What You Feel: How to be Understood By Those You Love
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Often our language is imprecise and does not express clearly what is most important to us. This article introduces the Awareness Continuum, a tool for building skills in clear communication. Learn how better to tell those you love what is most important to you.

  • The Grammar of Good Communication
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Following a few simple rules will make your communication clearer, more to the point, and more impactful on your listeners. For example, speaking in first person -- "I ..." captures attention, and clearly denotes that you are speaking about your thoughts and feelings. Using the word "but" in a sentence negates all that has gone before: "I like you, but..." This article offers guidelines for clear communication for business, friendship or intimate relationships.


  • Positive Sexuality Resources
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Recommended readings on many facets of sexuality and human sexual behavior, with an emphasis on sexuality as a positive force in life.

Meditation

  

Prosperity Consciousness
Positive Psychology
Resilience
  • Life as a Voyage of Discovery
    Part I: The Big Dream

    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    With curiosity, courage and a venturesome spirit, life becomes a Voyage of Discovery as we chart a course through unknown territory. The challenge of moving into the unknown on a sea- journey may mean dealing with life-threatening storms as well as periods of calm with no apparent forward movement. There may be times of proceeding with great caution to avoid shoals and reefs and other navigational hazards. Occasionally there is the challenge of extricating oneself after making a navigational error and running aground.

  • Life as a Voyage of Discovery
    Part II: The Success Log

    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Here we focus on an aspect of navigation at sea which provides another useful metaphor for our life’s journey. The Success Log - one’s own personal "ship’s log" - is a vital tool which can provide strength and encouragement to keep the Dream alive.

  • The Power of Imagination
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    It is the power of the imagination to enable each person to transcend present reality, no matter how stark, deprived or "hopeless." Imagination generates hope - or more exactly, unleashes creative powers to transform reality into something beyond that which is currently visible.
Self-Esteem and Assertiveness
  • Keys to Happiness: Gratitude, Kindness and Choosing to be Positive
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Simply choosing to be grateful, choosing to do kind acts can lead to increased well-being!

  • Talking Pain Away
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Putting your problems into words can soften the emotional impact of those problems. This notion, which is a psychological observation that may explain some of the usefulness of talking with friends, prayer, journaling, psychotherapy, and talking to "worry dolls", has been around a long time.

  • The Terrible Things You Say: Building Self-Esteem with Positive Self-Talk
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    There are many subtle and persisting ways in which we undermine self-esteem. One common way is to make negative statements about ourselves. These negative self-statements serve as powerful limiting factors to our growth and development. Rather than trying to figure out why we say terrible things to ourselves, it is far more useful to - stop it! Editing negative self-statements is an effective way to build self-esteem.

  • Use Affirmations to Build Self-Esteem
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Most of us have an internal dialogue going on inside our heads, commenting on our lives. If you stop and listen to what you are saying to yourself, you may be surprised how negative many of the statements are. Making affirmative statements to yourself helps to rebalance the internal dialogue, and results in increased Self-Esteem.

Sexual Health
  • Celebrating our Sexualities
    “Lovemaking, which means surrendering to the Love that energizes the universe and casts our egotism into ecstatic emptiness, is the essence of spiritual practice. It is our sacred calling.” Excerpted from his book The Way of the BodyPrayerPath: Erotic Freedom and Spiritual Enlightenment

  • The Health Benefits of Sex
    Pala Copeland and Al Link

    Lose weight. Reduce stress. Lower your cholesterol level. Improve your circulation. Live longer. Stay younger. Sounds like an ad for a new wonder drug right? In fact it's a partial list of the benefits of humanity's oldest and most pleasurable pastime: sex.

  • Seniors and Sexuality: Making Love for a Lifetime
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Myths and stereotypes about aging and sexuality would have us believe that sex is primarily for the young. Not so! Recent national survey data show that seniors are sexually active and interested. The reality is that experienced, mature and confident seniors can be better lovers, no longer struggling with youthful ignorance, anxiety and insecurities, career stresses and family responsibilities. There are aging-related physical and psychological changes as well as some medical conditions which do affect sexual functioning. Practical suggestions for dealing with these challenges encourage seniors to be playful, spontaneous, curious and experimental in their sexual relationships.

Sexuality
  • Celebrating our Sexualities
    Barnaby B. Barratt, Ph.D., DHS

    “Lovemaking, which means surrendering to the Love that energizes the universe and casts our egotism into ecstatic emptiness, is the essence of spiritual practice. It is our sacred calling.” Excerpted from his book The Way of the BodyPrayerPath: Erotic Freedom and Spiritual Enlightenment

  • Libido Training

    In this July 14, 2005 interview in All the Rage, David Yarian speaks with Virginia Roberson about the benefits of being sexually active and about ways to improve your libido.

  • Passionate Marriage: Forever an Oxymoron?
    David Schnarch

    Dr. Schnarch describes his Sexual Crucible approach, highlighting the importance of individuation in creating a truly passionate relationship.

  • Positive Sexuality Resources
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Recommended readings on many facets of sexuality and human sexual behavior, with an emphasis on sexuality as a positive force in life.

  • Seniors and Sexuality: Making Love for a Lifetime
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Myths and stereotypes about aging and sexuality would have us believe that sex is primarily for the young. Not so! Recent national survey data show that seniors are sexually active and interested. The reality is that experienced, mature and confident seniors can be better lovers, no longer struggling with youthful ignorance, anxiety and insecurities, career stresses and family responsibilities. There are aging-related physical and psychological changes as well as some medical conditions which do affect sexual functioning. Practical suggestions for dealing with these challenges encourage seniors to be playful, spontaneous, curious and experimental in their sexual relationships.

  • Spiritual Sex: Beyond the Physical
    Linda Savage

    Transcendental sexual experiences, moving from genital pleasuring to conscious loving to spiritual union.

  • Tantric Sexuality Resources
    David Yarian

    This large bibliography covers all aspects of Tantra and Tantric practice. It includes an introductory essay describing the historical development of Tantra and a contextualized approach to understanding modern Tantra.

  

 
Spirituality
  • The Faith Factor: The Health Benefits of Spirituality

    According to Dr. Benson, the number of physician visits that are due to stress or other mind/body interactions is 60 to 90 percent.
    (Interview with Dr. Herbert Benson which first appeared in The Shambhala Sun, July 1998)

Stress Management and Relaxation
  • Breath and Relaxation
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Exceptional and easy access to the Relaxation Response is available through focusing on the breath -- the foundation of most meditative practices. Simply paying attention to the flow of air into and out of your body has a relaxing and calming effect, allowing your body to move into the Relaxation Response.

  • Breathe with Mindfulness Today!
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Become conscious of the life-sustaining presence of your breath in this moment.

  • Fight or Flight: How Stress Affects Health, Part I
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Medical researchers have traced the stress response as it cascades throughout the body, affecting every system of the body.

  • Fight or Flight: How Stress Affects Health, Part II
    David Yarian, Ph.D.


  • Getting A Good Night’s Sleep
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    40 million people in the U.S. suffer from sleep problems every year, according to the FDA. Stress is one of the major causes of sleep problems. Deep Relaxation may be very helpful with sleep problems, lowering your stress, allowing your body and mind to quieten and calm.
  • How to Create Your Own Stress Reduction Program
    Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    A multi-faceted approach to stress management will yield maximum success in reducing your level of overall stress. The primary components of an effective stress reduction program include regular exercise, adequate sleep, a good diet, moderate use of alcohol, and relaxation.
  • Relaxation and Stress Relief

    Deep Relaxation is the much-needed antidote to chronic stress, providing relief and recovery from stress, burnout and emotional fatigue. Relaxation allows your muscle tension to melt away and your brain to slow down from its mad pace. Deep Relaxation gives your body the healing rest it needs so you can feel more like yourself once again.
  • Relaxation CDs: How to Get Maximum Benefit

    Relaxation CDs are a useful tool in learning how to achieve the Relaxation Response as a way of countering the effects of chronic stress. Simple guidelines enable you to get the most out of your experience using a relaxation CD.
  • Start NOW With Stress Relief
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The reader is guided through a simple breath awareness exercise – a fundamentally important resource for stress reduction.

  • Stress Relief Techniques 1: Rhythmic Breathing
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The experience of relaxation is essential to counteract the harmful effects of chronic stress on the body. Through the regular practice of relaxation techniques, one can begin to reverse this cumulative, damaging process, and engage the body's incredible potential for self-healing. Rhythmic breathing and focusing on the breath can foster the Relaxation Response.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 2: Progressive Muscle Relaxation
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Progressive muscle relaxation, also known as a guided body scan is a very useful stress relief technique. A guided body scan -- which seeks to find and release muscular tensions -- promotes deep relaxation, as most of us carry unnecessary tightness in some of our muscles.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 3: Centering Meditation
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Centering Meditation is a tested technique which encourages a state of profound rest and release. In this practice we focus our attention on a word or phrase to enhance the sense of relaxation while breathing deeply, slowly and evenly. The words you choose can have deep personal meaning, be neutral or simply be pleasing sounds.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 4: The Practice of Mindfulness
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Mindfulness is the discovery of what the essayist, Henry David Thoreau, referred to as the "bloom of the present moment." This practice provides an experience of the Relaxation Response as you learn to be in the present with non-judgmental, moment-to-moment awareness. It allows you to become centered and fully engaged in your life as it unfolds.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 5: Visualization and Guided Imagery
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The experience of relaxation is essential to counteract the harmful effects of chronic stress on the body. Through the regular practice of relaxation techniques, one can begin to reverse this cumulative, damaging process, and engage the body's incredible potential for self-healing.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 6: Walking Meditation
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Walking meditation is a great stress relief technique, particularly if you feel restless while doing other mindfulness techniques. A slow, mindful walk helps to center and relax you. Walking Meditation is practicing mindfulness and meditation while walking -- a kind of stillness in motion.
  • Stress Relief Techniques 7: Tai Chi, Qigong, Yoga
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    The ancient disciplines of Tai Chi, Qigong and Yoga provide excellent methods for heightening bodily awareness, focusing on the breath, and living in the present moment – all are paths to the Relaxation Response. Some have called these practices "meditation in motion." These may be helpful practices if you feel restless with less active approaches to relaxation.
  • Stress Relief Through Relaxation
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    As you move into Deep Relaxation during meditation, relaxation therapy, yoga –- or by simply paying attention to your breath -- your body is gradually shifting from the Stress Response to the Relaxation Response. Mental stress and muscle tension melt away as your body and mind relax.
  • Symptoms for Which Relaxation Techniques Are Helpful
    by Sandi Anders, M.Div., R.Y.T.

    Most physicians agree that Stress can exacerbate the symptoms of diseases, and can diminish the body’s ability to heal using its own natural healing processes. Many suspect that Stress can be a causal factor in a number of illnesses, including high blood pressure, anxiety, depression, insomnia, headache and others. The practice of relaxation is a valuable adjunct to medical treatment.

  

Success and Personal Effectiveness
  • Life as a Voyage of Discovery
    Part II: The Success Log

    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Here we focus on an aspect of navigation at sea which provides another useful metaphor for our life’s journey. The Success Log - one’s own personal "ship’s log" - is a vital tool which can provide strength and encouragement to keep the Dream alive.

  • The Grammar of Good Communication
    David Yarian, Ph.D.

    Following a few simple rules will make your communication clearer, more to the point, and more impactful on your listeners. For example, speaking in first person -- "I ..." captures attention, and clearly denotes that you are speaking about your thoughts and feelings. Using the word "but" in a sentence negates all that has gone before: "I like you, but..." This article offers guidelines for clear communication for business, friendship or intimate relationships.
Tantra

  

 

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