Death and Dying |
Much has changed since Elizabeth Kubler-Ross brought discussion of dying and death into the cultural mainstream a generation ago. Yet it is still a topic about which there is too little discussion. It is easy to avoid under the pretext of not wanting to upset someone else, though in truth it is often our own anxiety and discomfort that is the primary issue.
See also: Grief
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Recommended Self-Help Books on Death and Dying
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A Death of One’s Own
Gerda Lerner
Gerda Lerner’s husband was an academy award winning film editor, and this book is based on the journal which Mrs. Lerner kept through his final illness. It is particularly useful in charting the course of adjustment that individuals and couples make as one is dying. Mr. Lerner pleaded with his wife to help him die with dignity when he could no longer work. When that time came, he was not ready to die and asked her to promise to help him die if he ever lost the power to speak. When that time came, he was not ready to let go. This is a poignant book which lyrically describes the loving process of a couple facing the death of one partner.
1996, HarperCollins |
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Beyond Endurance: When A Child Dies
Ronald Knapp
The author interviewed 400 families who have experienced the death of a child. He presents the unique and common experiences for three types of death: death after a long illness, sudden or accidental death, and death by murder. He covers the grieving process, dealing with the hospital, and coping behavior and provides suggestions for mourning parents.
1986, Schocken |
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Death in Life: Survivors of Hiroshima
Robert Jay Lifton
In this classic book, which won the National Book Award, Dr. Lifton studies the psychological effects on 90,000 survivors of the explosion of the atomic bomb in Hiroshima in 1945. A penetrating and thought-provoking analysis of the ultimate horror.
1991, University of North Carolina Press |
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The Denial of Death
Ernest Becker
This book won the Pulitzer Prize for non-fiction and is Ernest Becker’s brilliant and impassioned answer to the “why” of human existence. Becker tackles the problem of the vital lie – man’s refusal to acknowledge his own mortality. In doing so he sheds new light on the nature of humanity and issues a call to life and its living.
1997, Free Press |
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Healing Into Life and Death
Stephen Levine
This hope-filled book offers guided meditations designed to produce a new balance of mind and heart. Included are vivid case histories of patients which illustrate how individuals may learn to let go, become more open to life and stop struggling against illness, pain and death.
1987, Anchor Books |
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How We Die
Sherwin Nuland
This useful book tells in plain language the biological and emotional realities of death as experienced by the dying and those who are with them. It answers many questions about what to expect with particular disease processes and can be a helpful resource in making informed choices and dealing with the dying process with dignity.
1994, Knopf |
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Letting Go: Morrie’s Reflections on Living While Dying
Morrie Schwartz
Morrie Schwartz was diagnosed with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease) at age 75. This book records his experience of his dying process. This is a compelling and wise account of a person living fully through his dying process.
1997, Dell |
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Living Our Dying: A Way to the Sacred in Everyday Life
Joseph Sharp
When he wrote this book, Joseph Sharp had been infected with the HIV virus for over a decade, living each day with the knowledge that he will eventually die. For him this has become the foundation of an intimate awareness of the beauty and majesty of life. Sharp weaves his personal experiences, spiritual quotations, and suggested meditations into a moving proposal for the “rewriting” of our lives as a conscious pilgrimage toward the inevitable outcome for ourselves and those we love.
1996, Hyperion Books |
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On Children and Death
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Dr. Kubler-Ross advises parents to allow their dying children to share openly in the dying process to the extent that they can. Good advice for how dying children and their parents can cope with death.
1997, Collier |
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On Death and Dying
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
This book is the classic which has helped millions of people to better deal with death and the dying process. In this remarkable book, Dr. Kubler-Ross first explored the now-famous five stages of dealing with impending death: denial and isolation, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Through sample interviews and conversations she gives the reader a better understanding of how imminent death affects the patient, the professionals who serve that patient, and the patient’s family.
1969, Macmillan |
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Passing On: The Social Organization of Dying
David Sudnow
This somewhat dated sociological study of the way dying and death is handled in our culture -- usually in the hospital setting -- was eye-opening when it was first published and, one suspects, some things haven’t changed so much.
1967, Prentice Hall |
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The Private Worlds of Dying Children
Myra Bluebond-Langner
The author studied terminally ill children, spending time with them in hospital wards. She gains their trust and ultimately comes to see the world through these children’s eyes. She moves us to understand that children do not fear entirely for their own lives, but vigilantly stand proud in the face of death, subtly comforting their doctors through their smiles while at the same time watching their parents watch them die. A profound, moving book.
1980, Princeton University Press |
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The Psychology of Death
Robert Kastenbaum
This basic text includes chapters on how we understand death, the experience of death in childhood and adolescence with discussion on suicide, physician assisted death, death anxiety and many others.
2000, Springer |
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Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes, Revised 25th Anniversary Edition
William Bridges
This revered classic has helped hundreds of thousands of readers cope with change by providing an elegantly simple yet profoundly insightful roadmap of the transition process.
2004, Da Capo Press
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